For international parents who want their kid to eat the vegetables. Without the battle, the guilt, or the patterns you promised yourself you’d leave behind. So you can finally experience calm, connected mealtimes.
You are not short on information
You read the books. You asked the paediatrician. You checked it online afterwards to be sure. You know about hunger cues, about not forcing bites, about not turning food into a reward, about food exploration. You’ve asked friends, and you’ve compared what one country says with what another one says, and you’ve noticed they don’t agree.
You can understand all of it. That was never the problem. The problem is that you still don’t know what to do in your kitchen, with your child, and you don’t quite believe you could pull it off on your own anyway. After all, there’s so much conflicting information.
You also know the three things your kiddo will eat. You know which meal turns into a fight before it’s even on the table. You know the exact moment, standing in front of the fridge, when you stop thinking and just reach for the same thing again. You don’t need another recipe. You need the table to stop taking up so much space in your head.
My honest take? Not knowing what to make for dinner is not a knowledge gap. It’s knowing too much. Too many do’s and don’ts, too many preferences, too many targets, all of them someone else’s.
You didn’t come this far in life to keep following other people’s rules. The next step isn’t more input. It’s deciding what a good meal looks like in your home, and putting it on the table in a way that gives you time, space and energy back.
You want one meal. And your head back.
You want one meal on the table that the whole family eats. Not five versions. Not a separate plate for everyone. Not a second dinner half an hour after the first one failed. You want to stop asking the question that comes back every single day: what are we going to eat today? Not to answer it better. To ask it less.
You also want to feel like yourself again. Eating something you actually like, not a boring salt-free baby meal. You want to sit down at your own table and eat a real dinner, instead of picking at a plate that was never made for you. You want to be on the same page with your partner, so the meal stops being where you negotiate.
And underneath all of it, you want your mind back. You want to stop overthinking food, questioning yourself. But you also want to get to 4 pm without needing to be rescued by the vending machine. To sit down at nine without feeling you have to earn it first.
But right now, here's what's happening.
You’re up before six. By eight you have done three things most people call a morning, and your child has barely eaten. You leave the house not knowing when they will. All day, a small calculation runs under your work: what did they eat at daycare, is today a good day? At four you are at the vending machine, annoyed with yourself.
At home you open the fridge and freeze. You have solved harder problems before lunch. But dinner does not respond to what usually works. You cannot research your way out, because the advice contradicts itself. You cannot out-organise it, because the other person at the table is two and does not care about your system.
Nothing in this day is a motivation problem or a knowledge problem. What is exhausting is the daily decision, the silent tally of who ate what, the bracing before dinner, and the guilt when it goes wrong. That is a mental load problem, and it is what Find Your Food Chill helps you with.
This is what Rosemarie says
“This summer, I joined the fantastic group program by family dietitian Sofie De Niet. We started taking a deeper look at our eating habits, both from a distance and up close. The benefits have been incredible. Under Sofie’s expert and gentle guidance, we gained new insights into our relationship with food and made some crucial practical decisions, like keeping frozen meals and vegetables on hand for quick and easy options. Now, nearly two months into the program, I often find myself feeling relaxed during our family meals – a calm I rarely felt even before our baby was born. Her arrival made us more aware of how we eat together and whether we wanted to continue that way. Amid the chaos of three kids with their own needs, we’ve rediscovered the essence of family life. It will never be perfect, and that’s okay. But making sure our time at the table is chill has become a top priority for me.”
The table is not just about the food
Most feeding support hands you a plan, or a list of tips. What to do when she refuses, when he only wants pasta, when they ask for sugar at four in the afternoon. That’s not nothing. It’s just not what’s missing for you.
You’ve tried the real things already. Offering breakfast earlier. Exposure. Eating together. Picky eating proof recipes. Asking the daycare how it went and getting an answer too vague to settle anything. General advice leaves you wanting more. Specific advice leaves you wondering how it would ever work in your family. So you end up with plenty of input and no compass, and the north you keep following is confusion.
Here’s what nobody says out loud. As long as a meal is judged by what your child ate, you have built your evening on the one thing you don’t control. That’s what turns dinner into a test. And a test can be failed, which is why you’re already tense before anyone sits down. Here’s the good news in that. If dinner has been hard because you were being graded on something outside you, then nothing about you needs fixing. What needs to change is what you’re aiming at.
So we stop aiming at the plate. We start with what you want food to mean in this family, and we build the evening from there. What’s on the table, how the meal feels, what you say, what you leave alone, what a normal Tuesday is allowed to look like. That’s a much bigger project than getting vegetables into a child, and strangely enough, it’s a much lighter one.
Because the day you stop needing the meal to go a certain way, you get the meal itself. You sit down. You eat your own food. You’re at the table instead of watching it.
This is what Toufan says
“A child goes through phases, you have periods were things are easy and others where you’re lost and need support. It’s like a rollercoaster. Sofie has been amazing giving the support I need, explaining everything super well, and really caring for every struggle I’m dealing with. She’s always available and the group sessions are really nice because each has a specific topic – and even if you think it doesn’t really concern you, it does, you’ll build a tool kit to support you through different phases. The group sessions are also helpful to connect with other moms and reassure you seeing that you’re not the only one. The podcast is also a great addition if you missed a group session or if you forgot about something, they are always a good reminder. I definitely recommend Sofie. She’s is the sweetest and she’ll be the best support you need.”
This is what life looks like on the other side.
Four months from now. You know what you’re making, because you decided that on Sunday in about ten minutes, and because it’s one of the meals you now know by heart. One meal, served so there’s something on the table for everyone. You’re making dinner happen the way you handle everything else in your life, which is competently, and then moving on to the next thing.
Your son eats the pasta and some of the rest, and leaves the other part. You see it. You don’t chase it. Not because you’ve become relaxed about your child’s health, but because you can now tell the difference between a child who is eating fine across a week and a child who needs attention. That distinction used to cost you a whole evening. Now it costs you two seconds.
You’re eating your own dinner. Seasoned the way you like it. Sitting down, not standing at the counter, not picking at something made for someone else.
Your partner asks what he/she should do differently. You can answer him in one sentence, because you’ve agreed on it and you’re not deciding it live, over your child’s head, at half past six. And late in the evening, food isn’t the thing running in the background of your day. You’ve got those hours back. Not for calmer meals. For your own life.
Find your Family Food Chill
Find your Food Chill is not a feeding program. There is no fixed meal plan waiting for you at the end of this. No list of foods to introduce in a specific order. No protocol to follow, no scripts for what to say when she refuses dinner. No ‘this is best for your child’ vibes.
In Find your Food Chill we dive underneath the table, into the framework you’ve been working from without knowing it and we rebuild from there. Food you actually chose to want. Food food that fits your family, your culture, your history, and who you are becoming. After we do this, the clarity about what to make/eat comes. The dinners that don’t require four versions come. But they come from a different place than the place you’ve been working from. That’s what makes this different. And that’s what makes it last.
Find your Food Chill is for parents managing the everyday weight of feeding a family – the mental load, the repetition, the low-grade worry that it’s not quite right.
What finding your food chill means
★ Food on the table that everyone can eat – not four meals, not a fight, one table.
★ The feeling that you’re doing enough – not more information, the actual sense of it.
★ Noticing what’s happening at the table without stepping in every time – you’ll start to see the pattern before you react to it.
This is a guided program. I won’t be diagnosing your specific situation live in the group, and I’d ask the same of everyone in it – what works for one family isn’t guaranteed to work for another, and this space is for learning together, not for solving your particular case in public. If you need that level of individual attention, that’s exactly what 1-1 sessions are for.
Find your Food Chill is for parents who carry the daily weight of feeding a family – the mental load, the repetition, the worry that it is not quite right. If your child has a medical complication or a growth concern, or you want personalized advice for your child or yourself, a 1-1 format fits you better. You can book a free clarity call if you are not sure which format fits you best.
You and your partner get access to:
★ Weekly small drops for 12 weeks (email and audio). Each drop gives you one clear insight and one experiment for your next meal. See it as small, doable steps that change how dinner feels. After 12 drops you get a month to catch up and put what you learned into a steady routine. 4 months of access in total.
★ Access to my audio library as ongoing support. It holds many answers to real parents’ questions, and in-depth episodes and programs, for example about selective eating. The drops guide you to what you need, and you can explore more whenever you want.
★ Open Q&A during the day, usually Tuesday or Friday at 1 pm (Brussels time), outside school holidays. If many of you need another time, I organize an extra slot, for example in the evening or on a weekend.
★ Private community chat. Ask your questions at any time. I answer in the chat or in the next Q&A. My answers stay general, because I do not know your family’s situation.
Find your Food Chill starts 2 November 2026. Join now to get a head start: instant access to the audio library, and a place to send your questions. I answer them in the group Q&A once we start. You do not need to hear everything, and any exercises in the episodes are optional.
Meet Sofie
I became a dietitian when I became a mother. I already had the degree in functional nutrition. I’d spent hours with the gut health research, the micronutrient literature, the evidence on early food exposure. I had access to information most parents never see. And I used all of it to make sure he got the best. The best foods. The best start. The best possible foundation. Food wasn’t just nourishment. If I’m honest, food had always been where I felt most in control. And now there was a tiny person who needed me to get this right.
When he started refusing foods – the foods I’d carefully introduced, at the right times, in the right way – I did what any trained dietitian would do. I researched harder. I added more structure. I tried better strategies. And none of it worked. Because none of it was about him. It was about what happened inside me when he said no. The small panic that looked like patience but wasn’t. The story running underneath every meal: ‘He won’t grow. He’ll get sick. He’ll be ruined forever. He’ll have a sweet tooth he’ll spend his whole life fighting.’ Every fear I’d ever absorbed about food, sitting at the dinner table, waiting.
Without realizing it, I started doing the one thing I swore I would never do. ‘See, this is what happens when you don’t eat your fruit’ or ‘Are you sure you don’t want a bite?’, and ‘The kitchen is closed now’ I said to my two-year-old. I knew exactly what fear-based feeding language looked like. I had removed ‘good food, bad food’ from our vocabulary. I invited him to listen to his tummy.
I genuinely believed I wasn’t repeating the pattern I wanted to break up with. I was still, quietly, desperately, trying to control what went into his body. Here’s the thing nobody tells you when you’re deep in the research and the strategies and the doing-everything-right – toddlers don’t process frameworks. They read nervous systems. And mine was telling him: this matters so much to me, I would do anything to get you to eat well. The only one who couldn’t see that was me.
It took other healthcare professionals mirroring back what I couldn’t see from inside. And it took me being willing to look. Not with more information. Not with a better strategy. It was understanding what the fear was actually about. And choosing – actively choosing – to look at it directly.
That’s what I bring to this work now. Evidence-based practice, yes. But also the willingness to ask the inconvenient question. The one that makes you go quiet. The one that leads you back to the answer that was already in you. Not telling you what to feed your child. Helping you see what feeding your child is doing to you. And from that place, everything changes.
FAQ
How do I know Find your Food Chill is what I and my family need? Yes, if you recognize this: you stand at the open fridge at 6 pm, or you make a second meal because someone will not eat the first. You want one meal that works for most of the table, and less thinking about it. Every family is different, but the patterns underneath are shared. To avoid any surprises, I recommend booking a free online clarity call with me so that we can explore if Find your Food Chill is a good solution for you and your family.
Who is it NOT for?
✘ You or a family member has a medical problem – including mental health – that needs to be addressed first (please check this with me during a free online clarity call).
✘ You never reflect on your relationship with food, and you do not question your own eating habits.
✘ You are looking for new recipes, you like to weigh quantities, or you like to follow strict instructions.
✘ You prefer quick solutions, or top-down feeding strategies that mirror the mainstream.
✘ You are not open to challenging your beliefs, or to a non-restrictive, weight-inclusive and non-ableist approach.
✘ You do not speak English. Everything is in English.
It’s also important to know that Find your Food Chill is NOT about getting your child to comply, finding the trick to make your child eat, or pushing children into things they’re not ready for, even if nutritional pressure makes that tempting. Instead, we work around this pressure and focus on creating a safe, supportive, and responsive feeding environment.
What happens when I join?
You get instant access to my audio library, and you can send your questions. On Tuesday 3 November the program starts. You get one drop every week for 12 drops, by email and audio. Each drop gives you one clear insight and one experiment for your next meal. After the 12 drops you get a month to catch up and put what you learned into a steady routine. 4 months of access in total, until early March.
How much time does it take?
The drops are short, so you can listen while you cook or clean. Each one has one small experiment for a normal meal.
Do I have to be there live?
No. The open Q&A is optional, usually on Tuesday or Friday at 1 pm (Brussels time), outside school holidays. Every Q&A is recorded and added to the audio library (in little bits). Questions are read out without names. If many of you need another time, I organize an extra slot, for example in the evening or on a weekend.
How do I ask a question?
Send it with your name or anonymously, through the question form or in the private chat. I answer questions for the whole group, in the Q&A or the chat. I do not reply to each message separately.
Do I have to speak or share?
No. You can listen, ask in writing, or stay quiet.
I already tried a lot. What will I learn?
Many parents do. You know the guidelines, you know that pressure backfires, and you follow the right accounts. Knowing is rarely the missing piece. What is missing is usually what happens at the table when you try to use it: the worry, the opinions of others, and the voice of your own childhood. That is what we work on. The facts you pick up are a side effect.
I have already tried division of responsibility. It did not work. Why would this?
Division of responsibility is one of the best-supported frameworks in feeding, and it is also one of the most misapplied. You can know the rules and still feel the worry underneath. Then the structure is there, but the tension is still there too. Your child does not read your strategy. They read your body. They notice the half-second pause before you say ‘you do not have to eat it’. So the work is not only knowing what to do. It is becoming a parent for whom the outcome does not feel threatening. That is a different kind of work, and it is where Find your Food Chill starts.
I have never heard of division of responsibility. Do I need to?
No. We explain it from the start, step by step, with real examples from family meals.
Do I need to know anything about nutrition?
No. This is not about learning more facts. It is about carrying less, while getting further with food.
Can I get personal advice?
My answers in the Q&A and the chat stay general, because I do not know your family. For personal advice, choose 1-1 guidance. You can book a free clarity call to decide.
What if I need more than the program can give me?
That is common, and it is useful information, not a failure. You can move into 1-1 at any time.
What about vitamins, iron, and enough nutrients?
You learn a simple way to build a family meal, and which nutrients need attention. I cannot look at your child’s own situation in the program. If you worry about growth, weight, or deficiencies, 1-1 is the right place.
What is in the audio library?
All my programs and episodes. The drops point you to what you need, and you can explore the rest at your own pace. Many answers are in Q&A style, based on real parents’ questions. Any exercises in the episodes are optional.
Can my partner join?
Yes, your partner is included. They get the same drops, library and Q&A. Lasting change works best when feeding the family is aligned. You do not need to do everything the same way, but ideally your intentions stay close. Find your Food Chill is also a chance to talk about this with your partner, even when your partner sees things differently.
How is this different from books, apps, or ChatGPT?
Those give general answers to often the wrong questions. Here you start with what makes meals hard for you, and you can bring your questions to a real dietitian.
What can I expect in 4 months?
The first results you will notice are in you. You feel calmer, clearer about what matters and what does not, and more confident about what to do in different situations, even when applying it still feels hard. Many parents tell me they have more head space: less thinking about what to make, and fewer versions of dinner. I do not promise specific changes in your child’s eating. Many shifts happen quietly, below the surface, and some changes look like a step back before they help. If your child’s eating were the direct result of our work, that would mean pressure, and external pressure backfires.
Can you guarantee results?
I guarantee that you will gain meaningful insight into your role as a feeder, and practical tools to help your family eat in a way that nourishes you. Healthy eating competences do not equal eating healthy food. This is why you might need to unlearn more than you learn from me. I commit to giving you my best guidance and resources, but your results depend on your actions, an open mind, and your willingness to experiment with evidence-based feeding advice.
Will I get a meal plan?
No. I do not give fixed, top-down meal plans, because I want to help you and your family learn to feed from within: to choose and prepare meals that feel good for your bodies and fit your life. You build your own recipe library, one that lives in your head and not on your phone, and you get plenty of inspiration and ideas for meals you actually enjoy eating together.
What ages is it for?
From starting solids to about 6 to 8 years. Much of it also fits teenagers, and you can bring your questions to the Q&A.
I don’t live in Belgium. Can I join?
Of course! Everything is online. The Q&A times are in Brussels time, and everything is recorded, so you can join from anywhere.
How long do I have access, and what does it cost?
4 months, starting 3 November 2026, for €260. You get instant access to the library when you join.
Can I cancel?
Yes. You can cancel within 14 days of the day you join, without giving a reason. This also applies if you join early, because the 14 days start on the day you join, not on 3 November. Not the right fit? Email me and I refund your payment.
Why should I work with you and not another dietitian?
If you value honesty, helpful feedback, insightful guidance and authenticity, I am the right choice for you. I am a mother myself, and I let go of diet culture through my son’s eating adventure. I offer a non-diet, nourishing and non-restrictive perspective on food. I explain the science and put it in perspective, so you know what matters and what does not. I am direct while keeping a gentle approach.
Do you have general conditions?
Yes, you can check these here!